Sunday, July 24, 2005
Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood
Understanding closed ones, family members, especially parents and children seem rather tricky thing.
Even famous people seem to have some parents-children issues unresolved that are publicly known, including Sigmund Freud, Jean Paul Sartre to name few.
A few years back this movie was rather popular chic-flick movie, and had many promotional interviews on TV as well. I went to see it with my mother and sister in Oakland's Piedmond theatre. I went to see movies there and was impressed with some movies having organ playing at an opening night and took my sister, and she was impressed with its old sytle design. So when we tried to setup some hangout time the movie came up and my sister was eager to take my mom there as well. The movie was already been showing for a few weeks and thus we got a smaller theatre with few people.
The movie was fairly impressive for fun hangout but I quickly dismissed it as a typical chic-flick drama, and forgot all about it. My sister, on the other hand, took it seriously and got herself a paperback. I've later heard from some friends that the book is a second of a sequel and that it was well known book that many women have read.
Just a random search got my sister's book landed in my hand, and as I was reading it I found out that there were much more to the story than 2 hour movie could tell. I think I ended up watching the movie after finishing the book and now the movie's plot and sequence mean more to me and I seem to remember the scenens better.
Anyways, it was pretty complicated story.
A successful playright is facing a review that makes her mother upset and upcoming marriage when she's not sure of herself. And, thus the adventure of her relationship with her monther in present, past as well as her mother's past are reviewed.
And, the moral of the story is that all parents do try their best, and life tends to be a little difficult. Also, it seems most kids do blame themselves for their parents' unhappiness.
Subconsciously I've been thinking of this concept, yet it was buried under other thoughts and other ideas. I was watching a Korean TV drama, while online, and saw this movie director scolding a budding actress to ponder the heroine's past as well as present when she didn't seem to digest the character's theme, that a girl fell in love with the lead actor because she was lonely and scared growing up without parents.
I'm not a best daughter to my mother. And, I think my mother and my sister also aren't perfect. We do try, and sometimes it seem we try too hard. And, also explain less of how and why things do happen in certain ways. Like Vivian in the book, my mother tends to talk more of her glorious days then her pain, I know.
I think the book certain does make one think. The movie also seem pretty well made, although it could easily have been dismissed the way I originally did.
How do we survive our own selves? How do we survive our loved ones?
It is certainly a question on many people's mind, and also rather a private ones for each of us to just blot out a simple solution. It takes heart, open mindedness, and patience. Aboveall, it takes knowledge which we all seem to be quiet shy to share. Why I've acted certain way toward certain individual, what am I trying to get at, ...
Also, motherhood seem a lot more difficult, in emotional sense, that one would normally think. Perhaps we should all condemn Tom Cruise for critisizing hastily about Brook Shields' post-pregnancy depression.
Why did Vivian's mother so cold to her only daughter?
How did Vivian and Walter have so many kids yet lived lives apart without helping each other at raising children?
How was it to have a distant father and drunk/abusive mother?
There are much questions.
Perhaps reading other books by Rebeca Wells will give insight to all these questions, or perhaps will provide more questions.
I'll have to try Rebeca Wells' other books, and will also try reviews and other clipings I can find.
Even famous people seem to have some parents-children issues unresolved that are publicly known, including Sigmund Freud, Jean Paul Sartre to name few.
A few years back this movie was rather popular chic-flick movie, and had many promotional interviews on TV as well. I went to see it with my mother and sister in Oakland's Piedmond theatre. I went to see movies there and was impressed with some movies having organ playing at an opening night and took my sister, and she was impressed with its old sytle design. So when we tried to setup some hangout time the movie came up and my sister was eager to take my mom there as well. The movie was already been showing for a few weeks and thus we got a smaller theatre with few people.
The movie was fairly impressive for fun hangout but I quickly dismissed it as a typical chic-flick drama, and forgot all about it. My sister, on the other hand, took it seriously and got herself a paperback. I've later heard from some friends that the book is a second of a sequel and that it was well known book that many women have read.
Just a random search got my sister's book landed in my hand, and as I was reading it I found out that there were much more to the story than 2 hour movie could tell. I think I ended up watching the movie after finishing the book and now the movie's plot and sequence mean more to me and I seem to remember the scenens better.
Anyways, it was pretty complicated story.
A successful playright is facing a review that makes her mother upset and upcoming marriage when she's not sure of herself. And, thus the adventure of her relationship with her monther in present, past as well as her mother's past are reviewed.
And, the moral of the story is that all parents do try their best, and life tends to be a little difficult. Also, it seems most kids do blame themselves for their parents' unhappiness.
Subconsciously I've been thinking of this concept, yet it was buried under other thoughts and other ideas. I was watching a Korean TV drama, while online, and saw this movie director scolding a budding actress to ponder the heroine's past as well as present when she didn't seem to digest the character's theme, that a girl fell in love with the lead actor because she was lonely and scared growing up without parents.
I'm not a best daughter to my mother. And, I think my mother and my sister also aren't perfect. We do try, and sometimes it seem we try too hard. And, also explain less of how and why things do happen in certain ways. Like Vivian in the book, my mother tends to talk more of her glorious days then her pain, I know.
I think the book certain does make one think. The movie also seem pretty well made, although it could easily have been dismissed the way I originally did.
How do we survive our own selves? How do we survive our loved ones?
It is certainly a question on many people's mind, and also rather a private ones for each of us to just blot out a simple solution. It takes heart, open mindedness, and patience. Aboveall, it takes knowledge which we all seem to be quiet shy to share. Why I've acted certain way toward certain individual, what am I trying to get at, ...
Also, motherhood seem a lot more difficult, in emotional sense, that one would normally think. Perhaps we should all condemn Tom Cruise for critisizing hastily about Brook Shields' post-pregnancy depression.
Why did Vivian's mother so cold to her only daughter?
How did Vivian and Walter have so many kids yet lived lives apart without helping each other at raising children?
How was it to have a distant father and drunk/abusive mother?
There are much questions.
Perhaps reading other books by Rebeca Wells will give insight to all these questions, or perhaps will provide more questions.
I'll have to try Rebeca Wells' other books, and will also try reviews and other clipings I can find.
